´ The Option in Between -
February 27, 2015

Many of us are aware of polarity: Democrats versus Republicans, hot or cold, good or bad. To say that there are things in the middle is one thing. But through the abundance of polarity we often constrict ourselves to seeing only two options: either I go grad school or I don’t. Either I stay in this relationship or I don’t. We are not trained to come up with several scenarios:

  • I could stay in this relationship and learn to take care of my own happiness
  • I could stay in this relationship and get outside help
  • I could stay in this relationship and we could seek help together
  • I could stay in this relationship and see what happens if I start a new loving habit today
  • I could stay in this relationship and see what happens if I speak the unspeakable
  • We could take a time-out

Once we understand that there is a whole midrange to choose from, not just when it comes to big decisions but also small ones as well, we don’t need to go with the first reflex feeling or thought. That is liberating.

 

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