‘What are your expectations?’
-Oh I don’t have any.
But then there’s disappointment. A feeling that sucks. Except that it does tell you something that you didn’t know before: that there is a part of your brain that created expectations without your conscious knowledge. But the feeling of not having these expectations met is very conscious. Once you follow that feeling the hidden expectation isn’t that hard to find. Next time you have a similar situation you will be prepared. And you might not be able to change what will unfold. But you will respond to it better.