Assumptions are a way of simplifying the world. They can be useful or the source of lots of unnecessary negativity. What kind of assumptions are part of your mental furniture? What happens if you rearrange or even replace some of those old thinking patterns?
- ‘I trust you’ instead of ‘you have to earn my trust’
- ‘You’re having a bad day’ instead of ‘you’re a jerk’
- ‘There is good in you’ instead of ‘are you a good person?’
Our society teaches us that this is naive. Yet how do people react when you interact like that? To me it’s more naive to hold on to unhelpful patterns than to try something different.