It’s a classic in psychology but well worth remembering: the difference between performance goals and mastery goals. In performance goals we aim to get a certain grade in an exam, lose a certain amount of weight or target a particular income number. If it works out we are happy but if it doesn’t we feel incompetent.
In mastery goals we aim to become more knowledgeable and competent. It is expected that this will take continued effort over time. However instead of just being rewarded when a particular goal is reached, mastery goals help us to enjoy the feeling of progress.
In which areas of your life do you have performance goals? Is there a way you could replace them with mastery goals?