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October 9, 2016

The darkness that we’re fighting is the fabricated kind that is caused by erroneous or at least super unhelpful thoughts. The darkness we are sitting with is of actual loss and misfortune.

October 8, 2016

I work in whatever medium likes me at the moment.

-Marc Chagall (artist)

What medium, what work is liking you right now and beckoning you to come over and dive down the rabbit hole? What seems to choose you?

October 7, 2016

Sometimes two good things can contradict each other. Having a solution focus means coming up with ways of moving forward while the most self-compassionate thing we can do sometimes, is to not rush ahead, but instead recognize and acknowledge inner truths. If consistently take the one or the other we will eventually pay for it. If on the other hand, we see them as part of the same process we can resolve the tension.

October 6, 2016

People don’t like radicals and extremists. This doesn’t just concern terrorists but also vegans, vocal environmentalists or activists of any kind. It occurred to me not that long ago, that with the exception of violent people we don’t have to like some extremists but we should give them credit for how they change society. Personally I don’t like to hang around extremist people either because it feels like unless I join their cause I will always be immoral, irresponsible or ignorant.

However we have to acknowledge that our society does not exactly reward polite people making reasonable cases. “Ahem excuse me, but I noticed that there are chemicals in our food which cause cancer, would you mind saying no to your profit and replace them with something that is more expensive and might change the taste please?” That usually doesn’t cut it. Instead we need the people who decide to live completely without plastic, or animal products or find novel ways to pay for life or whatever else their mission is. They may succeed, fail or both at this but they are blasting the path for all of us, who are less willing to invest as much energy as them.

And if we cut people some slack by acknowledging, that while we might not want their vision 100% to be true, society adapting some of their ideas could be a very beneficial thing, they might even relax a bit in our presence and stop annoying us all together.

October 5, 2016

There is niceness as a survival strategy: if I am always nice people will like me and I will be fine or even loved. That’s the kind of niceness that burns people out.

Yet there is niceness that comes from the genuine desire to make the world warmer and friendlier. It’s not so much an obligation as our gift to the world. We are free to not give it on days we feel we don’t have anything to give. Guilt free.

October 4, 2016

Everything we read, watch and hear has been edited. When you compare yourself you compare your unedited life to very polished messages.

September 29, 2016

It’s easy to be annoyed with people when they don’t do what we expected. Today let’s think about the ways in which people could have reacted in unpleasant ways but didn’t. Just like you their willpower is limited and they chose to use some of it to make your day run more smoothly.

September 28, 2016

How would you handle conflicts if force or threats were no option? We often default to the easiest or most known way to solve problems. What would change if we theoretically excluded these paths?

September 27, 2016

It’s easy to drown in to-do list items. Do you have a way to acknowledge and monitor your progress towards something?

 

September 26, 2016
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.

-Maya Angelou (Poet)

I think she got it right both individually and on a societal level. However this implies that if we do not face these things with courage we will relive them again and again.
September 25, 2016

I just watched an exceedingly weird movie that made me appreciate how much work it is to deal with things we are not used to. Kudos to all of you who bother to sit through that discomfort sometimes.

September 24, 2016

Every living being has evolved to thrive under certain environmental conditions and is challenged, once those conditions are not met. That is not just true for different species but even for individuals. So we set up our particular brand of bubble to make sure, that we can operate in the best possible way within that. I do this too by both blocking out information, that is not helpful to what I am trying to achieve and amplifying the things which further my cause. Yet no matter how comfortable it is in this bubble, it is vital, to see beyond it every once in a while. One way I do this is to attend the Zurich Film Festival and watch a shit-ton of documentaries and independent movies. Some of it is sweet, wonderous and encouraging but a big chunk is scary. Seeing what kind of complete nutcase is the most successful US police force trainer is haunting. Being in someone’s shoes who is completely helpless is not pleasant at all. It would be more comfortable within my bubble for sure. Yet here’s the thing: being outside the bubble reminds me of the urgency of what we are trying to achieve: healing and bringing forth a world, that is not so freaked out, that we can never leave our bubbles anymore.

September 23, 2016

Once upon a time was a professor who wanted to teach his kids about time management. So he took this big jar and placed big stones in it.

“Is it full?” he asked.

“Yes”, the class replied.

Then he took smaller rocks and replayed the whole charade and because this class is somehow very slow they fell for the same trick again and of course he pulled a bag of pebbles and finally some sand in. Moral of the story: start with the big important chunks of your day when planning what to do and get progressively smaller from there. If you stuff in small stuff, the big and more important will not fit any longer.

September 22, 2016

For me that’s six hours. What is the minimum/normal sleep duration for you? Compare and contrast sleeping your minimum viable sleep and how you feel when you have slept 90 min more than that. Sometimes we don’t even recognize, that we are not fully functional until we notice the difference.

September 21, 2016
There are some days when I think I’m going to die from an overdose of satisfaction.
-Salvador Dali

September 20, 2016

I ran a half-marathon three weeks ago. My body evidently doesn’t care about that one bit because after taking a little break, I got back to running and felt the muscle soreness after 3 fast miles. Now we are very aware of this effect when it comes to things we don’t want: losing muscle, fat creeping back in or starting to forget things. Yet we can use the same logic when it comes to other things: the brain patterns that are destructive but underused diminish in tiny ways every day. So let’s use this naturally occurring change as motivation.

September 19, 2016

When we get emotional about a situation it’s often because our expectations have been violated. This is perplexing as we are often not aware of the expectations we have. If you fill in the following prompts you will have a better understanding of what you expect:

  • XY is their job
  • The least they can do is….
  • It should be a given that…
  • If everyone did XY like that…
  • At this price point I expect …

 

September 18, 2016

Even if you don’t read all the glossy magazines it’s quite likely that you are aware of some famous actors, musicians and athletes. Even if you never meet them and hardly care, they can become like ghosts in your social circle: a less solid but definitely detectable presence, that lingers sometimes for decades. What I find interesting is how my view of them changes over the years in a way that reveals how I changed over the years. In my very judgmental teens I passionately hated many of them: Britney (oh how I would hit you as often as you liked back then), Justin Timberlake or The Bloodhound Gang (now I get nostalgic :). Later I didn’t necessarily hate celebrities but I underestimated them like Ben Affleck or Matthew McConaughey. And now as I look of many of them, regardless of whether I like them, I find it hard not to respect the continuous work and self-development required to maintain at the top and keep expanding your abilities. What about you?

September 16, 2016

Make 2016 count.

September 15, 2016

When taking prescription drugs we know that it is essential to not take ten times more than what the doctor prescribed. We know that dosage kills. Yet when it comes to psychology we often forget this concept of “how much” because we are blinded by a black n’ white discussion of what is right or wrong. Maybe what you tried didn’t work not because it’s useless but because the dosage was wrong.