Introducing real-life bite-sized positive psychology goodness. For a while I have been thinking how I could use more real life examples to illustrate the concepts we talk about in the regular episodes. Enter Anchor.fm
This is raw, real-life as it happens, sometimes out of breath other times cursing a bit more than I usually do but always with one mission: to be right there for you with helpful thoughts and examples to improve your day.
I have been recording on Anchor every day for a week, usually multiple times a day. Hope you enjoy this first installment.
Okay right now it’s just me and my mother so come one over and be one of the cool people who joined from the very beginning. I want us to get to know each other (you know a lot about me and I mostly likely don’t know you yet), share things that will help all of us become the people we want to be and of course chat about episodes. I will also share content from my new station at Anchor.fm It’s like Twitter but for audio and allows me to share examples and stories as they happen in real time, always with an eye on making your day better. Furthermore I want you to decide which happiness commandments should be featured in the 100th episode and of course introduce yourself.
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At work, as parents and in our relationships we say that we want one thing but then we behave to encourage something completely different. If our words and behaviours do not line up we will experience a lot of unnecessary conflict. Check out what kind of incentives make people tick.
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Did technology make relationships better (hello Skype) or does it make us lonely? Today we talk to Jason Feifer, host of the thought-provoking podcast Pessimists’ Archive and editor-in-chief of Entrepreneur Magazine to learn how to think about technology and the effects it has on our lives. You will also learn a fancy Japanese term you can throw around at the next dinner party and hear a guy speak a really really old language.
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If you love Harry Potter you are probably excited by the title but if you are not hold your horses and give our insightful guest Vanessa Zoltan a chance: the principles we discuss can be applied to your favourite books, music and movies and even if you don’t care about any of these things this discussion will make you consider your spiritual life and why it’s helpful to cultivate one even if you’re an atheist (like Vanessa is). In their hit podcast Harry Potter and the Sacred Text Vanessa and her co-host Casper ter Kuile use different practices to unlock the mysteries of the books. This deepened understanding can help all of us to live a life that is based on our values and that uses role models to handle moments of crisis well.
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From the distinctly unsexy depths of logic and classical psychology comes an episode on how to not be like your enemies: judgmental, illogical and manipulative.
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We are both terrified and fascinated with risk. Today we talk to adventurer-badass Suzy Madge who researched positive risk in ski-mountaineers but also drops out of helicopters to ski remote mountains in places like Afghanistan. Furthermore Suzy works with police forces and is therefore perfectly equipped to illuminate risk from several different perspectives. She talks about how relative the perception of risk is, why calculated risk taking is important and how high-risk situations can lead to transcendent experiences.
These are politically tumultuous times. In this episode we discuss some “necessary disillusionments” that we have to overcome in ourselves, stories that we are unhelpful that we have to let go of to proceed and we dive into how opposing parties can find some real common ground. I will not shy away from super-charged topics (particularly one) where I make the argument that there are important reasons to not just force your political will onto others but why some unexpected science should make us rethink some of our opinions. You will be encouraged to think about what a democracy that deserves that name would be like and how you can be part of an ’emotional climate change’ to secure sustainable political progress.
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Consumerism has a lot of downsides but what if rather than giving up hope we look at how to make it better? For that to happen we need to become aware of our relationship with materialism, limiting beliefs we have even if we don’t know it and what alternatives already exist.
You clearly love podcasts so why not teach someone how to listen to them and help them find shows they would enjoy?
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Steven talks to us about how magic impacts well-being and what we can do to get some of that threefold goodness into our own lives.
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Rosie from Illinois bravely confronts the shock, confusion and disillusion following the election of Donald Trump. She sits with discomfort, struggles through some painful realizations and ultimately recovers a sense of direction and even excitement. This is not only relevant for those of you trying to make sense of the new political landscape. It’s also a demonstration of how we can face our own contradictions and use the tension generated to propel us toward personal growth.
To those of you who are terrified and not entirely sure what to do next: here are some thoughts to comfort but hopefully also inspire you to see this as the growth opportunity that it is. This episode does neither contain concepts from psychology or politics but is instead my heartfelt reaction. The psychology and the politics will come later as I decided to do a mini-series on politics and building our future.
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Let others punch fear in the face. Michelle Poler instinctively knew that she would need some oysters, a bikini and a time-machine to confront her numerous fears. In this conversation we dive into the creative and fun way she decided to address her fears, what she learned in the process and how she inspired millions to do the same (but in their unique way). Also you don’t want to miss her thought-provoking insight into what her relationship with fear is like now. You can find out more and connect with Michelle and her interesting work here:
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If you had to relive the last three days and couldn’t change much except how you responded to what happened what would you change? What would you pay attention to that you ignored? What little opportunities for kindness did you let slip?
If someone offered you a completely safe space full of love and no judgment what would you bring to that space?
Deirdre a listener from beautiful Cape Town asked me a few questions about my personal journey with depression and I decided to answer her questions on the podcast. Furthermore I added a section about what people who have loved ones with depression should keep in mind.
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As a big fan of self-acceptance and self-compassion I struggle with advice that goes along the lines of “just choose happiness”. After all it’s important to take our feelings seriously and honour them instead of brushing over them and pretending everything is fine.
However I find that neutral or slightly pissed off moods are not always the result of an underlying problem. Rather they can be influenced by all kinds of random things like weather, hormonal fluctuations or simply giving ourselves the space to brood.
If we mistake these random things for our authentic self it means that a more true version of us cannot shine through at this very moment. And this means that strategies of distraction or simply choosing different activities and thoughts absolutely have their place without meaning that we are faking it.
We live in a world rife with uncertainty. We make assumptions that often morph into certainties because we can’t focus on anything if we question everything everyday. Yet if we don’t want to risk betting our whole life on something that turns out to be wrong we should ask ourselves “what would happen if I were wrong?”.
To me I have placed my bets and everything else has taken a backseat. My bets are that “understanding your psychology can make your life better”, “we can change for the better” and “humans are basically good” (maybe the most risky of them all). But what would happen if I were wrong? What would happen if studies came out, not just one or two, but a huge number of replicable studies came out which showed that optimism levels can’t be increased, the human brain is fixed as it is and even though we are good sometimes, it clearly is selfishness that drives everything.
Well I have thought about that. Because the sunny days, time with friends, money and possibly more care-free life that would be available if I backed off of spreading what I believe to be the truth in this world I can never get back. I can never get back the time I spent alone in my room or at Starbucks drafting podcast episodes or writing course materials.
But here’s the thing: there’s margin for error because to me there’s nothing more interesting to think about than how more people can lead a fulfilling life. There is nothing more worthy to me than being able not once or twice but reliably support people who are going through hard times and giving them hope, knowing that this work makes a difference.
If you don’t have that margin of error in your life I don’t want you to feel bad about it. But I hope you realize it and do something about it before it unravels you.