Sometimes I find it hard to distinguish between accepting a situation, a person’s behaviour or my own and letting myself or others get away with things.
Acceptance is good in the long term, loopholes seem a good idea in the short term. But sometimes they seem to look very similar, almost like twins.
What I see in lots of people I talk to is that they are too harsh with themselves, seeing everything, even true acceptance as a loophole. Acceptance sets you free as clichéd as it sounds, whereas constantly choosing loopholes narrows down options.