One of the drawbacks of engaging with self-development and positive psychology can be that we replace traditional ‘shoulds’ such as climbing the career ladder with different ones like ‘I need to be fulfilled in my job’. This can cause exactly the same kind of anxiety that we were trying to avoid. Strengthening our strengths and emphasizing positive emotions can seem like this huge task but it doesn’t have to be. It’s far less likely to be about making one momentous change such as switching careers and more about making lots of little decisions about what to believe, how to talk to others and to be mindful of the moment. When the ‘shoulds’ are stressing you out take a step back and remind yourself that you are okay right now, you don’t have to be anywhere else or feel differently at all.