If you take 1000 people who experienced the same difficult life event, chances are that 100 of those people are doing surprisingly well. Optimism and a growth mindset are not about denying that difficult things happen. It’s about asking what those 100 people are doing differently so they can flourish, despite what is happening. You can apply this logic to everything by asking yourself: what would it look like to grow in this situation? What can I let go of and what could I double-down on to make things better? We all have the right to stay within the confines of misery that is familiar to us. Sometimes that’s even comforting. However an optimist believes that with some effort, things can be better than that. And that’s worth trying something new.