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Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.-Sören Kierkegaard
We need a good mix between ongoing and recurring tasks and projects which are clearly finished after some goal has been achieved. Some people are comfortable doing only project work or doing the same for years but chances are, many of us need a bit of diversity. Let’s make sure that we don’t invest our energy only in things which will go on forever. Alternatively, let’s make sure we don’t only jump from project to project unless we love the high pressure and the time commitment.
In Nick Hornby’s book Fever Pitch he talks about how soccer beats sex: it has the potential for dramatic, sudden and complete surprises in a way that sex doesn’t (well maybe unless you do it in a place with changing gravitational forces). Whether it beats sex or not, most of us delight in complete and utter surprises, yet we micro-manage every day to eliminate them. Of course there are terrible surprises but let’s think today about how we can bring more surprise into our life.
In instant-anything-land even short delays and tiny hiccups can annoy us disproportionately. Like when I think of buying an additional pair of insoles because I don’t enjoy the five seconds it takes to move them from my street to my running shoes. When the computer takes five seconds longer than what we are used to. Convenience is nice because it sets us free to pursue things we think are more important to us. However we have to keep ourselves in check and remind ourselves of a healthy dose of perspective when tiny things seem hugely burdensome.
If we were honest we knew that we can’t or don’t want to keep certain habits up. So we stop doing the thing and then feel guilty about it. This guilt is not only very unlikely to fuel your habit for years, it’s actively keeping you from finding a solution that might work better. For example not everybody is into running for various reasons yet since it’s THE cardio workout people just take it up anyway. If you never get anything except better fitness out of it just try other options: cycling, swimming, rollerblading, stand-up paddling and even dancing can be real work-outs.
Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!
Here’s one I have to remind myself of: never underestimate people’s ability to find pride and meaning in what they do.