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To the writer whose books you love you are a blackbox. To the instructor whose course you take you’re a blackbox. Sure some of your facial expressions give a little bit away but overall people who create anything love to know how you received it, what you liked and what you didn’t understand. Don’t sit around expecting people to fulfill your needs. Give people feedback. Don’t be a blackbox.
Today do one thing that will make you proud of yourself.
Important things can sometimes feel heavy. If this gets to us too much we might not be able to bring our most effective self to the table. In these cases it might make sense to get off a topic for a while if we can afford to do it. It’s not going to run away and if we don’t stew in it we might actually bring some new ideas to the table further down the line.
You will find poetry nowhere unless you bring some of it with you.-Joseph Joubert
I just read a book review where the guy said that ‘instead of focusing on concepts like grit (passionate and enduring perseverance) people should ensure that school children are not hungry.’ He discredits the idea by calling it elitist bullcrap. He might have pointed out a perfectly important problem. However one way of making sure that the status quo doesn’t change and hence the people profiting from it can go on profiting from it is by taking two ideas and making them artificial opponents. You can teach children about grit and ensure that no child has to sit in class hungry. By creating artificial opponents people can deflect the attention from things that need to change. Similarly when it comes to school people phrase the debate the way that you either jeopardize academic quality or you teach people skills that are essential in real life. We put a man on the moon with less information available than any smartphone user has today. Are these things really so insurmountable if we decide to give it a gritty effort?
When we’re feeling bad and helpless about it chances are that we want to bring others down. This is not a rational calculated decision but more of a reflex. So if you find that you are suddenly way more into criticizing everything and everyone you might look at ways to elevate yourself. We do this by acting trustworthy, living our values when it’s easier not to and finding meaning in what happens.
There is a lot of freedom in not having to know all the answers all the time. Let’s answer more often with ‘I don’t know.’
The world is rife with theoretical support: we like posts which tell us to ‘go for our dreams’ or ‘get up and keep going after failure’ and what not. But when we see our friends or other people starting things we are on the fence: we don’t support things before we know that it will work for sure. If we really believe in going for dreams we should help people going for their dreams. And if we really believe that people should keep going after failing we should put trust in those who failed and help them get it right.
Your life will not change one bit if 11 guys kick a ball into the net often enough. Sports is entertainment and like many things entertainment usually we don’t take it that seriously or even care. Yet every once in a while something happens that makes you believe that miracles are possible. Not theoretically but in real life like when the humble folks of Leicester City win the English Premier League. When the people who were nearly relegated a year ago and faced betting odds of 5000-1 beat teams which have literally ten times more money we should all sit up and take note: that is the power of not buying into the story that money rules the world all the time coupled with grit and dedication. So we don’t celebrate things like this because we don’t understand the triviality of soccer. We celebrate because they remind us, that against all odds getting the most out of what you have can lead to great victories and sometimes even beating the big ones in the process.
We were born into a world that came with most roads, bridges, sanitation, constitutions and other things you might need to lead what we consider a normal life. But people invested millions of hours of work. What are you working on, what big goal, that benefits people beyond your family? The antidote to feelings of meaninglessness is to devote yourself to big, chewy projects which might take decades to complete. How would you feel if 2030 rolled around and you know that you contributed to any of these with your own hands and brains?
You probably can’t make money from your poetry, your singing, your rollerskating and your photography. But you can make memories, express yourself, energize yourself and others, have fun and feel like a kid again.