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March 1, 2016

Today I woke up with a slightly stiff back. The explanation I give myself will change a lot about how I feel about it and the whole day.

  1. That happens when you’re over thirty. I will just have to live with it.
  2. My muscles are tensed up, I should see a chiropractor.
  3. Maybe I got cold during this snowy night. Let’s see how I feel in two days and decide then.
  4. Why always me? I hate seeing doctors all the time.
  5. I may have made an usual movement during soccer practice.

Each of these explanations has very different consequences:

  1. Takes power away from me. I can’t change my age so I can’t change the hundreds or thousands of ailments coming for me.
  2. This is a solution focused explanation which takes the problem seriously without feeling sorry for the self in a wimpy way.
  3. Similar to number two, but more patience.
  4. This also takes power away from me in a ridiculous way, as if the universe were out to get me.
  5. Encourages me to think things through coolly.

Same trigger, very different explanations. When in doubt let’s take the issue seriously while choosing the most empowering story to tell ourselves.