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I admit that I may have said or done it on this very blog: saying someone should just say, do or think something. The word just is so innocent and everyday. Yet I try to use it as a red flag for myself. Because when I find myself thinking that an individual should just do X it means that I am not taking their entire experience seriously, that in a way I feel that it’s easy to change if only this person would just start doing this or stop doing that. But usually it is not because otherwise people wouldn’t struggle and need help. What might me a just for me and you might be a huge challenge for someone else who is facing barriers. We give no information on how to overcome barriers when we just ask people to do things. If anything it’s the opposite because we fail to empathize enough to see the reality of their situation.