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July 31, 2014

Can you relate to this feeling? You are sitting somewhere, let’s say the office or the library and suddenly a sound that you didn’t notice before just stops. You didn’t consciously think about it, it never bothered you but suddenly you feel this surprising sense of relief.

Now did you ever happen to work or study in an environment which has usually a steady stream of background hum but doesn’t because nobody but you is there? read more …

July 26, 2014

Control Emotions.

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CreativityUse your creativity to come up with alternative explanations
CuriosityUse your curiosity to non-judgmentally investigate when happy thoughts occur and why
JudgmentUse your judgment to objectively assess how likely it is that your negative thoughts are 100% true
Love of LearningUse your love of learning strength to distract yourself by learning something you enjoy
PerspectiveUse your perspective to assess how these problems will affect you one, three or ten years from now
BraveryUse your strength of bravery to confront the unhelpful thought-patterns you have had for years
PerseveranceUse your strength of perseverance to gently attempt to change your thoughts repeatedly
HonestyUse your honesty to admit to yourself that these issues can be hard
ZestUse your zest to get physically active
LoveUse your strength of love and treat yourself the way you would treat a loved one
KindnessImagine what the kindest person you know would say about your issue and say the same thing to yourself
Social IntelligenceUse your social intelligence to understand how others successfully deal with negative thoughts
TeamworkImagine how a successful sports team might tackle similar negative thoughts
FairnessUse your strength of fairness to be sure you are fair towards yourself
LeadershipTreat the transformation of your negative thoughts with the same importance as a vital long-term project
ForgivenessForgive yourself in big and small ways
HumilityPay attention and give credit to all the people and circumstances which make positive change possible for you
PrudenceUse your strength of prudence to not demand too much too soon from yourself
Self-RegulationUse your self-regulation strength to become aware of negative thoughts and treat them like passing clouds
Appreciation of BeautyNotice the beauty around you and treat it as a space where you can take a break from negative thoughts
GratitudeUse your strength of gratitude to imagine what you can be grateful for
HopeFind reasons to remind yourself that you have what it takes and that it’s worth hoping for a good outcome
HumorImagine the worst possible scenario and then use humour to make it so ridiculous you have to laugh
SpiritualityConsider the transformative power getting over your current thinking patterns could hold
July 13, 2014

colorful Easter Eggs and rabbit on the grass

Adults love straight-forward solutions. We love them so much that we would rather spend years and years finding “the one thing that changes our life” instead of changing ourselves. That’s why tools are so much more popular than processes because if only we had the right tools, everything else would fall into place.

When is the last time you heard someone say ‘I really used to struggle with my self-esteem. Then I bought one book and the problem was solved forever.’

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July 13, 2014

Confused Diagram Means Dont Know And Perplexed

It is no coincidence that people know so much more about their weaknesses than their strengths. These seven misunderstandings have a lot to do with that. Once you address them in your mind you are free to explore your strengths.

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July 6, 2014

Baby Girl With Computer Laptop,  Mobile Phone

You don’t have to leave your computer to use your strengths or at least not just yet. Check out and try out some of the suggestions below. Or you could devise your very own online strengths experiment. Something that occurred to me recently was that random acts of kindness lend themselves very well to online activities. So I now try to bundle different things together and just spend 30 minutes to one hour filling out surveys, writing reviews of products I like, signing petitions for things I find important, etc. It’s a win-win situation because the other party involved appreciates your help while you get a happiness boost out of these little kindnesses. If you have additional ideas or want to share your experiences comment below.

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