We are often encouraged to fight ourselves to attain some sort of success: sleep less, work more, work-out more, do something that scares you every day and God knows what else. I am not saying that these things are not sometimes necessary to succeed but there is an alternative to being in constant combat mode with yourself. Things can flow. Most children don’t need to be encouraged to play, they do it naturally.
Sure we can’t wait for everything to flow all the time, we have deadlines and other commitments. But simply knowing that there is a space where we don’t have to fight ourselves (or others) helps. We might not always find it but we might see the right exit if we keep an eye on it.