Have you ever been to a place many times and then someone takes you on a tour and you discover all kinds of exits and other doors you have never seen before? Our brain does a lot of filtering without us even knowing. Usually it’s a good thing because it means we don’t have to think about unimportant things. However sometimes we don’t see options to move forward, realities which conflict with what we believe in or promising alternatives. If you don’t see how something could turn out well think of all the times you were astounded to find an extra door or corner you had never seen before. Just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not possible or doesn’t exist. But instead of reinforcing your brain’s filtering encourage your brain to find the alternatives by saying something like ‘I wonder what the best solution for all of us would look like’.